Choosing to Forgive

Have you ever been hurt so badly that it takes everything in you to try and forgive? If that is you, here is an aid to help you try and overcome that problem. Forgiveness can be so freeing and is an important step to implement into our lives.

Why is it so crucial to forgive? As Christians, we should be striving for peace in our relationships. This doesn’t mean that there won’t ever be drama, but we should be willing and striving to let go of things in order to live at peace. When we aren’t willing to forgive, we are assuming all responsibility of carrying that pain and hurt with us instead of handing it to God. Why would we want to carry pain and hurtful feelings around with us when we have a gracious God who is more than willing to carry those things for us? 

One thing that makes letting go so hard is the feeling of not being in control. We want to assume the role of making sure the other person(s) gets the “punishment” that they deserve. That punishment is not ours to give, no matter how much we want it to be. It is not our job to ensure that the person that hurt you “gets what they deserve.” God tells us that He will take care of what needs to be done so that we don’t have to. We don’t need to worry about making sure the other person pays for what they have done. 

“Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord.” 

ROMANS 12:19 NIV 

By: Emily Selby